I was having a great conversation with my sister-in-law a few months ago. As we were talking I could not help but think about how great she always looks. She is an artist to the core – trained in fashion and interior design – and it shows in her ‘look.’ Like her house, it is totally her own and truly beautiful.
As I was leaving I thought that anyone who met her and found out what she does would totally connect the two. Her look is that of a classy artist.
My sister is the same – it is not a stretch to see that she is an English teacher and creative writer. Not the stuffy stereotypical kind but the kind that allow buckets of fake blood to be poured over a student in a class reproduction of Macbeth.
I have decided that I look like the mother of 6 kids – 5 of which have ADD/ADHD.
Not that I don’t try to look a little put together, I do. But, just like my sister-in-law and sister’s images are reflections of their lives I am pretty sure that I am a reflection of mine.
I look like a million things take priority over my ‘look’; maybe a few emotional breakdowns, a string of arguments and misunderstandings, “focus” uttered a million times, a few thousand, “reel it back ins,” and a constant race to keep up with the creativity and talent in the house.
That is why Saturday evening, a week ago, was a great night for me. It was a parental payday for sure.
My oldest two daughters have been working to form a band for several years now. It began long ago when Mariah started flute lessons at seven years old (as a stress reliever) and Rachel followed her with voice lesson. This was long before we knew or understood ADD/ADHD. As they progressed, got better, and older - their musical tastes expanded. I suppose this end was a logical progression.
Mariah has found ease and a natural way to communicate through writing songs (both lyrics and music). Rachel brings the songs to life on stage.
The Bliss Method left to Right:Ethan Harlan (drums/Percussion), Rachel Aro (Lead Singer/Lyrics), Mariah Aro (Piano, Guitar, Synth/Music & Lyrics), Cameron White (Lead Guitar)
Along comes a fantastic drummer and a fabulous guitarist and now they are going places.
I am sure it is not a coincidence that all four band members have ADD/ADHD. Have we talked about the beauty of hyper focus and what a talent can be created when there is nothing else in the world?
The Bliss Method played their first gig on that Saturday evening. I sat back and watched them, watched the crowd as people identified with the messages, danced along, and complimented their talents. I felt pretty good about my role as the semi-put-together, frazzled mom.
...After all, it is what I do!